I'm a 39 yr old dad of three. My 'dad' left us to go to help his mother, as she was unwell, when i was just months old. I'm 40 in 10 months and he hasn't returned.
Some conversations that i have had people have asked if i have missed him and i have to be honest, i cant miss something that i never really had. The situation has affected the way i have arranged my life though. It has made me determined to be there for my children and never leave them wondering where i am. It is a shame as we are family orientated.
I have 4 other siblings (2 older 2 younger) and from we were young have always been relatively close in our daily lives. My children do ask about their Granddad and i try to give them a straight and unbiased answer, but i am sure they see the disappointment on my face when we talk about him. I have no intention in finding him or contacting him. The only thing that plays out in my mind is that i may have other siblings that i have no knowledge of. Maybe one day but not today.